Healthy Relationship Practices: Owning Your Sh*t

In any interaction, there is more than one party, and every party has their influence. In romantic relationships this is even more the case, yet we are often blinded by what we contribute to the funk we may get into at times…

Going From ‘No’ to ‘Yes, if…’

Sometimes things seem impossible, or we are unwilling to do them in the way they are prescribed or the way we imagine them. At those times, it can be useful to see what adaptations you could make to turn your ‘no’ into a ‘yes, if…’

10 Things I Still Haven’t Figured Out After 37 Years

My 37th birthday was a bit of a rough day, and it helped guide the words for this post on things I still find myself facing after working on them for most of my life…

The Schizophrenic Reality of Living With Fear of Commitment in a Committed Relationship

Sometimes it feels like there are two people living inside my head, two people who want, do, and say completely different things. It can get really frustrating, so I decided to write it down.

My Needs Versus My Responsibilities

How do you decide between what you want to do, for yourself, and what you feel like you need to do, for others? What if those two clash? I’ve recently found a new way to weigh my needs versus my responsibilities that has left me feeling more in charge of my life.

My (Conflicting) Stance on Conflict

Are you a put-your-head-in-the-sand person or a say-it-as-it-is person when it comes to conflict? And if neither tactic really seems to be helping to fix things, is there a better way to approach disagreement?

“But You Don’t Seem Depressed…” – On Covert Depression and 6 Tips for Helping Someone With Depression

Depression can sometimes be nearly impossible to spot. Covert depression and high functioning depression are well-hidden, yet can be even more devastating because it takes longer to get help. Here’s how to spot some of the signals, and what you can do to help someone going through depression.

Healthy Relationship Practices: Clarifying Your Relationship Patterns

Every relationships is riddled with patterns, the longer we have them, the stronger the patterns. We sometimes even start thinking that we ARE those patterns. But is that really true? And are those roles we take up as strong as we think?

Healthy Relationship Practices: Should You Work on Yourself Before Going Into a Relationship?

Is it better to ‘work on yourself’ before you go into a relationship? Or can you grow while being together? Here’s how I would answer that question from my own experience, with some influence from experts as well.