8 Years of Riddle-Solving

All children have their quirks, but in my son’s case, much of his life is filled with riddles. Riddles we try to solve, together, so that both him and the world around him become less puzzling.

I’m not Messy, Lazy or Flaky, I Just have AD(H)D

Sometimes, a simple word can help open up a whole world. That’s what happened for me last week, when I received my own diagnosis. Pieces fell into place and I finally got the key to the toolbox I need.

The Schizophrenic Reality of Living With Fear of Commitment in a Committed Relationship

Sometimes it feels like there are two people living inside my head, two people who want, do, and say completely different things. It can get really frustrating, so I decided to write it down.

Healthy Relationship Practices: Clarifying Your Relationship Patterns

Every relationships is riddled with patterns, the longer we have them, the stronger the patterns. We sometimes even start thinking that we ARE those patterns. But is that really true? And are those roles we take up as strong as we think?

Healthy Relationship Practices: Should You Work on Yourself Before Going Into a Relationship?

Is it better to ‘work on yourself’ before you go into a relationship? Or can you grow while being together? Here’s how I would answer that question from my own experience, with some influence from experts as well.

The Nasty Effects of Conflict Avoidance

When you avoid conflict, it has some immediate rewards: no conflict, you don’t have to deal with unpleasant emotions, etc. But there are also pretty bad negative effects that I want to dive into here…

Principles Versus Practice

Many of us have princples that guide our lives, ideals that we’ve translated into practical habits to reflect who we want to be. But sometimes, those principles are too hard to uphold, or conflict with one another, or somehow don’t really seem to mirror that initial ideal. Is it alright not to live according to your own principles for a while?

Do You Want to Belong or Fit In?

We all want to feel a sense of belonging. It’s part of our human nature. And we often try to feel it, by making ourselves fit in. But is that the right way to go about it?

Why Do I Write in English? – Language and Personality

I’ve been writing this blog for about 17 months in a language that is not my native tongue. Why did I choose it? What has this language brought me? And who have I become through using it?