Both giving and receiving feedback can be tricky, even triggering. Last weekend, I got to experience it as incredibly helpful and as very difficult (which in itself also proved valuable feedback).
We all have graves in our yards of things we buried long ago, things we don’t want to see or know. Sometimes, we even forget they are there. But knowing our shadow, and taking the time to look at it, is vitally important.
At one point, we were all innocent children. But would you still call yourself innocent? And if not, where did your innocence go?
In any interaction, there is more than one party, and every party has their influence. In romantic relationships this is even more the case, yet we are often blinded by what we contribute to the funk we may get into at times…
My son has a diagnosis, and that affects our family, in small ways and in big ways. He’s a wonderful kid, and he brings challenges with him that have so much become part of my daily life, that I sometimes forget to factor in how much energy they take to deal with. That’s why I wrote this post, to clarify it to myself, and to show you a sliver of what is often invisible from the outside in.
This Mother’s Day, I look at cats, and birds, to inspire my post on what it is that mothers do, meaning all kinds of beings that engage in some kind of ‘mothering’…
Sometimes it feels like there are two people living inside my head, two people who want, do, and say completely different things. It can get really frustrating, so I decided to write it down.
Every relationships is riddled with patterns, the longer we have them, the stronger the patterns. We sometimes even start thinking that we ARE those patterns. But is that really true? And are those roles we take up as strong as we think?
Is it better to ‘work on yourself’ before you go into a relationship? Or can you grow while being together? Here’s how I would answer that question from my own experience, with some influence from experts as well.
Some topics are hard to talk about, even with our partner, or especially with our partner. Most couples have ‘relationship taboos’ that are never discussed. But discussing the undiscussable may just be the next right thing for you!