Dealing With Your (Self-)Destructive Tendencies

Over time, I’ve come to recognise some of the signs that precede depression. Last week I noticed myself feeling angry, a lot, for seemingly no reason. My therapy session yesterday helped uncover a bit of what was underneath.

Same Event, Different Experience: How to Deal with Unexpected Emotions

My daughter looked forward to school starting again for days, my son dreaded it for weeks. How do you deal with people responding so differently to a situation than you would? If you can’t really understand why they feel the way they feel?

The Empathy Response – Why? How? When?

What is the one response that works on an angry friend, a scared child and a grieving family member? It’s empathy. It’s one of the most valuable skills we can acquire and the impact on our personal and professional relationships is amazing. Why not give it a try?

Are You Aware of What Winds You Up? (And Can You Get Back Down?)

We are all faced with stressors in our everyday lives, but what stresses out one person might not stress out someone else. The same rule applies to all of us, though: what goes up must come down. But how?

Healthy Relationship Practices: How to Avoid the Big Fights

Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of a huge fight wondering ‘How did we get here? What is this even really about?’
They seem to come out of nowhere, but there are usually some tell-tale signs letting you know what’s coming. Here’s how to avoid these nuclear relationship-bombs and to deal with conflict more constructively.

My Number One Self-Coaching Question for Dealing With Adversity

What do a flat tire, missing keys and dog poo on your shoe have in common? Yes, they all suck! But they also provide a valuable opportunity to do some self-coaching. Find out which question to ask and why in this post!

Why Can’t My Partner (Friend, Child, Colleague…) Cope With Small Obstacles?

There are people who, when a problem is presented to them, can’t seem to cope with it right away. There are times when I can adapt to issues really quickly (at work). This is a story of when I couldn’t, why that was and what I needed at the time. I know I’m not alone in this, so perhaps it can be helpful to you too.

What To Do When You’re Feeling Overly Emotional – 3 Steps to (Some) Calm

Have you ever had one of those days (or hours) where it felt like everything was too much? You couldn’t cope with simple adversities like a stubbed toe or a broken glass? I had such an emotional day yesterday and, for the first time, felt like I handled it okay. Here is how.

The Work by Byron Katie #4 – Who or What Would You Be Without the Thought?

The final and fourth question in The Work by Byron Katie centres around imagining a world, a version of yourself, without the thought that’s holding you back. Here’s how to tackle it, enjoy!