When you avoid conflict, it has some immediate rewards: no conflict, you don’t have to deal with unpleasant emotions, etc. But there are also pretty bad negative effects that I want to dive into here…
What does a loyal friend do when you’re going on about your ex? Or about your horrible boss? And what does courage look like in friendships? Do we appreciate who our truest friends are?
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of a huge fight wondering ‘How did we get here? What is this even really about?’
They seem to come out of nowhere, but there are usually some tell-tale signs letting you know what’s coming. Here’s how to avoid these nuclear relationship-bombs and to deal with conflict more constructively.
When you’re confronted with a difficult moment, it calls on you to show who you really want to be. You show this, through your response. Not the one your emotions force you to make, but the deliberate one you decide on for yourself.