My son has a diagnosis, and that affects our family, in small ways and in big ways. He’s a wonderful kid, and he brings challenges with him that have so much become part of my daily life, that I sometimes forget to factor in how much energy they take to deal with. That’s why I wrote this post, to clarify it to myself, and to show you a sliver of what is often invisible from the outside in.
Sometimes, a simple word can help open up a whole world. That’s what happened for me last week, when I received my own diagnosis. Pieces fell into place and I finally got the key to the toolbox I need.
For a few months during the depth of my depression, I held on to Dawson’s Creek like a bit of a lifeline. It helped me get through some things in a way I had not expected. Here’s how.
Sometimes it feels like there are two people living inside my head, two people who want, do, and say completely different things. It can get really frustrating, so I decided to write it down.
When you avoid conflict, it has some immediate rewards: no conflict, you don’t have to deal with unpleasant emotions, etc. But there are also pretty bad negative effects that I want to dive into here…
My friend asked me ‘how did it get this far?’ and I asked myself the same question. Not just for me, personally, but for a society as a whole as well, with so many dropping out due to burnout. What’s really going on here?
Many of us have princples that guide our lives, ideals that we’ve translated into practical habits to reflect who we want to be. But sometimes, those principles are too hard to uphold, or conflict with one another, or somehow don’t really seem to mirror that initial ideal. Is it alright not to live according to your own principles for a while?
When have you worked enough? When have you ‘earned’ the right to take some rest? Are you weak if you just can’t manage to keep up with the day-to-day rhythm? I was forced to look at some of these questions, through my own very personal lens.
What is the one response that works on an angry friend, a scared child and a grieving family member? It’s empathy. It’s one of the most valuable skills we can acquire and the impact on our personal and professional relationships is amazing. Why not give it a try?
If you look at movies or tv-shows these days, it seems that most first dates end between the sheets. If it’s true love, that is. But traditionally, building a relationships goes a lot slower, and there are good reasons why.