When you avoid conflict, it has some immediate rewards: no conflict, you don’t have to deal with unpleasant emotions, etc. But there are also pretty bad negative effects that I want to dive into here…
My friend asked me ‘how did it get this far?’ and I asked myself the same question. Not just for me, personally, but for a society as a whole as well, with so many dropping out due to burnout. What’s really going on here?
Many of us have princples that guide our lives, ideals that we’ve translated into practical habits to reflect who we want to be. But sometimes, those principles are too hard to uphold, or conflict with one another, or somehow don’t really seem to mirror that initial ideal. Is it alright not to live according to your own principles for a while?
When have you worked enough? When have you ‘earned’ the right to take some rest? Are you weak if you just can’t manage to keep up with the day-to-day rhythm? I was forced to look at some of these questions, through my own very personal lens.
What is the one response that works on an angry friend, a scared child and a grieving family member? It’s empathy. It’s one of the most valuable skills we can acquire and the impact on our personal and professional relationships is amazing. Why not give it a try?
If you look at movies or tv-shows these days, it seems that most first dates end between the sheets. If it’s true love, that is. But traditionally, building a relationships goes a lot slower, and there are good reasons why.
We get taught an awful lot, implicitly and sometimes explicitly, about what we’re supposed to love and hate about ourselves. Until we decide we no longer buy it. Until we decide we can just love it all!
The final post in my series on Byron Katie’s The Work deals with turning your beliefs around, finding the opposite thought and seeing how, when and where it could possibly be true. This work has slowly been unveiling its secrets to me, through practice, and I haven’t seen the end of it yet. So happy for another piece of the magical puzzle of self-exploration to fall into place.
The final and fourth question in The Work by Byron Katie centres around imagining a world, a version of yourself, without the thought that’s holding you back. Here’s how to tackle it, enjoy!
The Work by Byron Katie is a great way to explore your own thoughts and the impact they have on your life. It centers around 4 questions. In this post, I dive into question 1.