In any interaction, there is more than one party, and every party has their influence. In romantic relationships this is even more the case, yet we are often blinded by what we contribute to the funk we may get into at times…
Are you a put-your-head-in-the-sand person or a say-it-as-it-is person when it comes to conflict? And if neither tactic really seems to be helping to fix things, is there a better way to approach disagreement?
Every relationships is riddled with patterns, the longer we have them, the stronger the patterns. We sometimes even start thinking that we ARE those patterns. But is that really true? And are those roles we take up as strong as we think?
Is it better to ‘work on yourself’ before you go into a relationship? Or can you grow while being together? Here’s how I would answer that question from my own experience, with some influence from experts as well.
When you avoid conflict, it has some immediate rewards: no conflict, you don’t have to deal with unpleasant emotions, etc. But there are also pretty bad negative effects that I want to dive into here…
Some topics are hard to talk about, even with our partner, or especially with our partner. Most couples have ‘relationship taboos’ that are never discussed. But discussing the undiscussable may just be the next right thing for you!
If you look at movies or tv-shows these days, it seems that most first dates end between the sheets. If it’s true love, that is. But traditionally, building a relationships goes a lot slower, and there are good reasons why.
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of a huge fight wondering ‘How did we get here? What is this even really about?’
They seem to come out of nowhere, but there are usually some tell-tale signs letting you know what’s coming. Here’s how to avoid these nuclear relationship-bombs and to deal with conflict more constructively.