The first days of January usually inspire me to make plans and resolutions for the coming year. But this time, I’m opting out of that ritual for the first time in years. Here’s why…
Category Archives: Personality
Who Am I Doing This For?
When you give, who are you doing that for? What’s in it for you? What’s in it for the other person? What energy is behind it?
Survival Mode: How Does It Get Triggered? And How Do You Get Out of it?
What pushes you into survival mode? How can you tell when you’re in it? And how could you learn to get out of it?
The Dark Side of Idealism and Woke Culture
It’s wonderful when young people put their hands and heads together to fight for social justice, the environment and their future. But idealism also has a dark side that we need to be wary of…
The Nasty Effects of Conflict Avoidance
When you avoid conflict, it has some immediate rewards: no conflict, you don’t have to deal with unpleasant emotions, etc. But there are also pretty bad negative effects that I want to dive into here…
The Horror of Uncertainty (and its Hidden Invitation)
We often think we have a pretty good idea of the future ahead based on our experiences of the past. But sometimes, that future becomes really unclear. How does that make us feel? And how can we respond?
Principles Versus Practice
Many of us have princples that guide our lives, ideals that we’ve translated into practical habits to reflect who we want to be. But sometimes, those principles are too hard to uphold, or conflict with one another, or somehow don’t really seem to mirror that initial ideal. Is it alright not to live according to your own principles for a while?
3 Triggers to Self-Doubt and Insecurity
It can be tricky to get out of self-doubt and insecurity, and even when you do, it can be easy to slide back into it. In this post I want to look at three reasons we might feel insecure, and how to deal with those triggers.
Do You Want to Belong or Fit In?
We all want to feel a sense of belonging. It’s part of our human nature. And we often try to feel it, by making ourselves fit in. But is that the right way to go about it?
How Can We Help Our Children Feel Safe?
My son has a really hard time finding safety in the outside world. If he could choose, he’d be with me or his father 24/7. But since we’re limited beings, and the world is inherently unsafe, we need to find other ways to help our children feel safe.
Unscrewing Myself 