How Can We Help Our Children Feel Safe?

My son has a really hard time finding safety in the outside world. If he could choose, he’d be with me or his father 24/7. But since we’re limited beings, and the world is inherently unsafe, we need to find other ways to help our children feel safe.

Dealing With Your (Self-)Destructive Tendencies

Over time, I’ve come to recognise some of the signs that precede depression. Last week I noticed myself feeling angry, a lot, for seemingly no reason. My therapy session yesterday helped uncover a bit of what was underneath.

Why We Named Our Business ‘Show Yourself’

We named our business ‘Show Yourself’ knowing only too well how challenging that can really be. Why is it so terrifying to show your true colours? And why is it that, in the end, we really don’t have a choice?

Same Event, Different Experience: How to Deal with Unexpected Emotions

My daughter looked forward to school starting again for days, my son dreaded it for weeks. How do you deal with people responding so differently to a situation than you would? If you can’t really understand why they feel the way they feel?

The Empathy Response – Why? How? When?

What is the one response that works on an angry friend, a scared child and a grieving family member? It’s empathy. It’s one of the most valuable skills we can acquire and the impact on our personal and professional relationships is amazing. Why not give it a try?

My Number One Self-Coaching Question for Dealing With Adversity

What do a flat tire, missing keys and dog poo on your shoe have in common? Yes, they all suck! But they also provide a valuable opportunity to do some self-coaching. Find out which question to ask and why in this post!

Why Can’t My Partner (Friend, Child, Colleague…) Cope With Small Obstacles?

There are people who, when a problem is presented to them, can’t seem to cope with it right away. There are times when I can adapt to issues really quickly (at work). This is a story of when I couldn’t, why that was and what I needed at the time. I know I’m not alone in this, so perhaps it can be helpful to you too.

I Want to Push my Partner Away – Now What? (5 Steps to Deal)

Have you ever felt like you just couldn’t be around your partner in that moment? Like you wanted to leave? Or push them away? Yes, it’s completely normal. And no, it’s not a lot of fun. Here are some tried and tested tips I’ve built up over the years.