How do you ask for help?

Seriously, I’m asking you, because I’ve struggled with this my entire life. This struggle has led me to a place where I believe many of my friends don’t think I want help, let alone need help. I act as if I can do it all on my own, as if I’m super strong and handlingContinue reading “How do you ask for help?”

But how do you FEEL?

Chances are you know someone in your life that LOVES this question. That will ask about your feelings at any given moment and expects an in-depth explanation of the complex range of emotions you are going through at that time. If you don’t know a person like that, you might BE that person. There areContinue reading “But how do you FEEL?”

When Someone’s Angry With Me…

Written by: Jorinde BerbenImage credit: pikrepo.com … it completely hijacks my brain. I feel like I have very little control over the automatic programs that start running through my body. First of all, yes, I realise this is the second post I’ve written about anger in a week’s time. It should give you a clueContinue reading “When Someone’s Angry With Me…”

How to deal with angry kids: quick fixes

Written by: Jorinde BerbenImage credit: pexels.com First of all, how you deal with anger in others gives you a lot of information about dealing with your own anger, but that’s for another time… At this moment in time, I’m stuck in my house with my two (mostly lovely, sometimes insane) children because we’re in theContinue reading “How to deal with angry kids: quick fixes”

A Perfect Parent In 4 Simple Steps.

Disclaimer 1: This title is obviously clickbait, in real life I’ve never met a perfect anything.Disclaimer 2: This post deals with the role of ‘parent‘ since it’s a big one in my life, and also since tomorrow is Mother’s Day, but you can replace it with any role you take up in life (partner, sibling,Continue reading “A Perfect Parent In 4 Simple Steps.”

Dopamine-Detox-Day

Alright, it’s the morning after and the first thing I’m doing is writing this post (okay, full dislosure: after having a cup of coffee and checking whatsapp, messenger and instagram…) Yesterday I did a dopamine detox day as advertised in this video (that also featured in my previous post “Your drug of choice.” Since thisContinue reading “Dopamine-Detox-Day”

Real Self-Care

No self-help book these days is complete without a mention of self-care. If you want to care for others, you have to care for yourself too. You can’t pour from an empty cup, you can’t give if there’s nothing to give, yadayadayada. You get the picture, self-care is hot! And rightfully so, to be honest.Continue reading “Real Self-Care”

What Is Your Home Base?

Written by: Jorinde BerbenImage credit: Kathleen Demey of fotodeka.be So you’re in a space where you’re stressed out, uneasy, don’t really know what you’re doing with your life or where you’re going… It’s not a single space either, it’s a feeling that pops up regularly, in my case. A little more often than I’d wantContinue reading “What Is Your Home Base?”

Your Drug of Choice

Written by: Jorinde BerbenImage credit: pexels.com Everyone has a drug of choice. Everyone. Yes, you too. And, oh hell yes, me third. What do drugs do? I’m not a medical doctor, but I’ve come to understand that they are foremost a way to avoid bad feelings. Using drugs is an escape route from feeling crappyContinue reading “Your Drug of Choice”

What’s the meaning of all this?

Written by: Jorinde BerbenImage credit: pexels.com This is my first post on this brand-new blog. It’s a filler, really, to make sure there’s a first post before I head into the serious stuff. If I dive right into some heavy introspection, I might scare you off, or I might come across as some sort ofContinue reading “What’s the meaning of all this?”