When I got married and had children, I never planned for what would happen in case we got divorced. It was never part of the schedule. But after 3 years of co-parenting after divorce, I’ve learned some important lessons that I want to share, hoping you will never need them!
Monthly Archives: Jul 2021
My Number One Self-Coaching Question for Dealing With Adversity
What do a flat tire, missing keys and dog poo on your shoe have in common? Yes, they all suck! But they also provide a valuable opportunity to do some self-coaching. Find out which question to ask and why in this post!
Why Can’t My Partner (Friend, Child, Colleague…) Cope With Small Obstacles?
There are people who, when a problem is presented to them, can’t seem to cope with it right away. There are times when I can adapt to issues really quickly (at work). This is a story of when I couldn’t, why that was and what I needed at the time. I know I’m not alone in this, so perhaps it can be helpful to you too.
My Views on Marriage After Divorce
Over the decades, my views on marriage have shifted back and forth quite a lot, influenced by what went on in my life. I was 21 the first time I married. Will there ever be a second time?
What Will it Take For Us to Rest?
Why is it so hard for us to rest? Do you ever just sit still and relax, for hours on end? I want to look at why it is tough, and how I can start building rest into my life.
Parenting in a Joined Family: 4 Challenges Stepparents Might Face (and Tips to Deal!)
I used to have 2 children, but find my family now enriched by 3 more amazing kids. Being a stepparent comes with a few of its own challenges, but when you learn to work around those, you find your life enriched in ways you couldn’t have imagined beforehand.
The Work by Byron Katie #5 – Turn It Around
The final post in my series on Byron Katie’s The Work deals with turning your beliefs around, finding the opposite thought and seeing how, when and where it could possibly be true. This work has slowly been unveiling its secrets to me, through practice, and I haven’t seen the end of it yet. So happy for another piece of the magical puzzle of self-exploration to fall into place.
What To Do When You’re Feeling Overly Emotional – 3 Steps to (Some) Calm
Have you ever had one of those days (or hours) where it felt like everything was too much? You couldn’t cope with simple adversities like a stubbed toe or a broken glass? I had such an emotional day yesterday and, for the first time, felt like I handled it okay. Here is how.
The Work by Byron Katie #4 – Who or What Would You Be Without the Thought?
The final and fourth question in The Work by Byron Katie centres around imagining a world, a version of yourself, without the thought that’s holding you back. Here’s how to tackle it, enjoy!
The Work by Byron Katie #3 – How Do You React When You Believe That Thought?
Today I talk about question 3 of The Work by Byron Katie. The Work is a great way to explore your own thoughts and the impact they have on your life. It centers around 4 questions you can ask yourself, to coach yourself to more insight, more freedom and more happiness.
Unscrewing Myself 